A few months ago, I talked about my diet/health reset that I began after my whirlwind February. So,I thought I’d update you. 10 Pounds gone!!! I am not really a girl who gets on the scale weekly or daily. In fact the batteries in my scale died last year and never replaced them. If I want to weight, I usually do at the gym. I try to stay of the scale, because there are just so many variables and some things that a scale will never be able to tell you like inches. I did get on when I started in March in order to get a clear starting point. If you do the math, you will see that it’s taken 3 months to lose those 10. I feel like that’s not a shocking amount of weight, but the difference in my clothing, walking stairs without being winded and energy level are all things the scale can’t measure.
I came across the benefits of losing just 10 pounds. When you think you have so far to go and 10 pounds won’t make a difference, here’s 10 ways it will: 1. Reduce Joint Pain 2. Cut your risk of diabetes by 60% 3. Less medication. Americans spend 58 billion on medication related to being obese. 4. Improved sex life. 80% of men who are obese have erectile dysfunction. 5.Can lower blood pressure by 3 or more points. 6. Can reduce bad cholesterol by 10%. 7. Just about every 10lbs is a dress size. 8. Can reduce risk of heart attack/stroke by 50% 9. Help with your sleep apnea. 10. Increase energy
Thomas the Tank Engine™ is celebrating friendship at Day Out With Thomas®: The Celebration Tour 2015, and families across North America are invited aboard!
Little engineers everywhere are invited to join Thomas when the #1 Engine pulls into Midland Railway May 29-31 and June 5-7 for Day Out with Thomas!
This fun-filled event offers little engineers and their families the opportunity to take a ride with Thomas the Tank Engine, meet Sir Topham Hatt™, Controller of the Railway and enjoy a day of Thomas-themed activities including arts & crafts, storytelling and more.
The tour, now in its 20th year, will make 42 stops across the U.S. and Canada and is expected to welcome nearly one million passengers in 2015.
If your child is #ThomasObsessed you don’t want to miss a day out with the tank engine!
I’m give away a family 4pack of tickets for:
Sunday June 7, 3:45!! (Tickets will be picked up at will call).
To enter: Find this post on Facebook-www.facebook.com/neverhomesahm and click “like”.
Winner announced on May 15, 2015.
I’ve been struggling with putting this into words.
As you all have been following this divorce(http://www.mikitaburton.com/yes-i-am/)
/single Mom journey, some of you I know personally and you ask: “how’s it going?”
I’m not sure that anyone really wants the answer, so I usually smile and say “it’s going”. I know that people are genuinely concerned and it’s really nice of them to take the time to ask.
So, here is the answer- it is lonely.
Not the being a Mom part,but the single part. I don’t mean lack of dating, I mean the truly being alone part.
It is all up to me. Everything.
Every decision about these three humans is all on me. If there is anything about being married that I miss, is someone to bounce ideas off,someone to reinforce discipline and someone to share the milestones/achievements and someone to ask if I’m totally screwing it all up.
All of the questions, I’m the only one to answer. Mom, can I go to a sleepover, Mom can I take this girl out, Mom can I have a car, Mom can I have an Instagram account, Mom what’s for dinner, Mom what are we doing for my birthday. ..questions all the time and just me to answer them all.
There is the really exhausting part of it. Every morning, you know the stress of getting them all ready and out the door on time.
The practice rounds, the homework help, dinner,laundry,cleaning, and bedtime routine – all me, all by myself. The missing assignment emails from school, the tournament schedules all come to me, the school field trips, signing up for gymnastics, shopping for clothes and shoes, up in the middle of the night because someone is sick- All me, all by myself.
I have really amazing parents who help me all the time. Babysit when I need to work, pick them up from school, pick them up from practice, go to games, cut my grass, make runs to Sams club, keep them all night so I can have a 12 hour break…the list goes on and on. I am so greatful for them, because without the help, I would truly be insane.
As much as they help, it still all falls on me. This isn’t a complaint, it’s just the answer to how, “How’s It Going”.
I think being a Mom in general can be lonely. I think the things that I listed, almost every Mom does with little or no help from a partner and I think most Moms wouldn’t change it for the world.
I am not sure that there is a fix or a solution. The best advice that I’ve been given is:
“The only way out, is Through”. So, I will make it through. We will make it through.
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After talking to a few Mom friends at the gym and looking through the receipts over the last couple of weeks, I realized how much we go through a drive through.
I’m embarrassed to say that I’ve spent well over $100 on fast food in the past month. I really had no idea it was that much, until I totaled it up. A quick stop after school for a cheeseburger, a quick dinner after working late, picking up something for the oldest after a game, it just all starts to add up.
I asked my kids and they are in!
NO Drive-thru at all. Which includes Starbucks for me.
NO snacks at QuikTrip
There will be “take out” pizza once this month. We rarely eat out at at restaurant (because eating with a 4 year old is zero fun). If that happens, it’s not a deal breaker.
This will likely be more of challenge for me, as I will need to think ahead and prepare meals and snacks.
The Prize: $$$$100.00$$$$$$ for each kid! It’s not because I have an extra $300 laying around, but the money saved will be close to that amount. It’s also a huge incentive and nothing motivates like cash!
Wish us luck, let me know of you’re joining us and send me quick easy meals-please!!
It’s been a long winter, but spring is finally here and here are 5 simple ways to say Hello Spring!
1. Pink Polish. Nothing looks more like spring than a fresh coat of pink paint.
2. Get outside. I’m sure you have a favorite neighborhood park, but drive to one of the cities big parks for a fresh experience. If you’re in Kansas City, try Loose Park, Shawnee Mission Park or Antioch Park. Don’t forget bread to feed the ducks.
3. Visit the Nelson museum (or the museum in your city). Pack a lunch and eat on the lawn in front of the shuttlecocks.
4. Super Size your out-door games. This is an easy way to take tic tac toe outside. Shower curtain or plastic table cover, duct tape and frisbees. Fold plastic into a sauare, duct tape a tic tac toe board and grab the drivers to see if you can land them!
5. Take a nature walk. This is an ideal regime to hit a trail. The weather is still cool enough to not break a sweat. Things are not in full bloom yet, so if allergies are an issue, you are pretty safe for the next few weeks.
Well, okay that blog title may be an exaggeration. It’s more like I reconnected with someone via twitter.
We actually first met, more than 20 years ago. I was 17 and a mutual friend introduced us at a volleyball game. This is all according to him, I was wasn’t playing because I was hurt, I don’t remember at all, but that sounds about right.
We dated for a while, I loved him, thought I would marry him and then he joined the Marines. He left for boot camp and I remember crying for weeks that he was gone. I remember writing him and being horrible at keeping in touch and doing the long distant thing.
I don’t remember our breakup in detail, but I remember him being stationed in Japan and me thinking that I shouldn’t just sit in Kansas and pine away for him. I thought I should date other people, travel, go to college, figure out a career & experience life. We broke up and I did all of the things I thought I should be doing & we stayed friends.
We would chat occasionally, lose touch and find each other again. We both got married and did life.
Enter the magic of facebook and the ability to now keep up with everyone all the time. We stayed in touch, we both had babies, we worked and kept doing life. As things go, kids grow, marriages end and you continue to do life, checking in on each other along the way.
Cut to last year, we reminisced about an old song and memories of my old house where he would pick me up. He (like everyone else) had no idea that my marriage was over.
We decided to meet for coffee to catch up and talked for a couple hours before real life called and it was time to pick up kids from school.
Later that week, he was tweeting (about not sleeping) and since I don’t sleep much, I replied to his tweet. Those 140 characters changed everything. I suddenly remembered how smart he was and that he could keep up with my sarcastic mouth. The tweets moved to direct messages and eventually to text. I realized he is not intimidated by me, he could careless that I’m on TV and he understands the crazy life of being a single parent of 3 (he has 3 as well).
Reconnecting is amazing. It’s one of those completely unexpected (wonderful) things that has taken both of us by surprise.
When I broke up with him as a teenager, I thought, who meets the love of their life at 17. Surely, there is more. I was right and I was so wrong.
To be continued…
My year has been so wonderfully busy that my healthy eating and fitness have taken a backseat. Time for a reset.
I’m calling it a reset because it’s not a diet, it is everyday choices. One of the biggest lessons I learned during my initial weight loss, was to stop the snowball effect. To not let one bad day of eating turn into a week or let one week of not working out to turn into a month. You will have those days and weeks, but you stop the snowball and reset.
The first thing this reset includes is water. Lots of it! Being so busy, I drank more coffee and not nearly enough water. Mild dehydration can mimic hunger. I will start with a glass of my “fat flush” water: 1 sliced grapefruit & 1 sliced lemon (add a mint leaf if you like). I put it in a pitcher, so I can just pour from it.
2 glasses before lunch& dinner and as much as I can drink through the day. I still drink coffee everyday, no one wants to know me without caffeine!
I have just started taking SlimQuick Pure Gummies. They taste really great and are stimulant free. They are made with bio green tea and so far my energy is really up! So much more than the quick/short lived boost from my coffee. They are shown to help you lose 3x’s more weight. You can try them with a $5 off coupon, visit www.myslimquick.com
Another huge no is skipping breakfast. I’ve been drinking my coffee and calling it breakfast. Not eating until 11 or so is bad. So, breakfast choices will be oatmeal,eggs,smoothie,fruit/yogurt, toast or a breakfast bar if I’m busy.
I have a new FitBit that’s been sitting in the box since before Christmas, so time to get it out and track my activity. If you have one, search for me (Mikita Burton) and add me, we can track together!
I am usually pretty on track for lunch. Small salad and a turkey sandwhich on a bagel thin or pita bread is my go to. When I’m on track, I have fruit and veggies/humus with it. BUT- This past month, I’ve discovered a love for sweet/spicy Doritos (thanks to my teen boy). They are addicting and officially banned from the house.
Dinner, I start with a vegetable. Other than that, I haven’t been doing anything else right. Lots of fast food for those busy nights. Back to meal planning I go. I know the nights we will get home late because of games, working, gym and school activities. Those nights will require some advanced planning or pre-prepped meals. There are tons of crockpot recipie a, easy 1 pot meal and meals you prep ahead and just put in the oven. If you follow me on Pinterest you will see an influx of healthy meal pins.
I will keep you posted on my reset! Let me know if you are joining me. 114 days til summer!
The month of February has been an amazing whirlwind of events all to raise awareness for Heart Disease, which remains the number 1 killer of women. In fact, it kills more women than all cancers combined.
This month kicked off with a bang, in the form of a Kansas City Star article and Billboard!!! I shared my story of weightloss and how important it is to know your blood pressure numbers. A huge thank you to the Kansas City American Heart Association for featuring me on billboards in the city, it’s been a true honor.
It was then time for the Red Dress Dash! A fun dash in red and the annual free event to help spread the word and raise money! Most everyone was in a red dress (including some guys)!
After the dash, I packed my bags and headed for New York for the Woman’s Day Magazine Red Dress Awards – red carpet and all!
The night was filled of catching up with friends
making new friends (like Andy Cohen from Bravo)
and amazing performances from music ledgend Elvis Costello.
Most importantly, celebrating women who are making tremendous strides in fighting heart disease
Maybe the story that stuck with me the most at the awards, was of the woman who had a heart attack at a young age. After sharing her story of recovery and survival, she called on all the women in the audience to take time for themselves. To reduce stress and realize how important it is to take care of themselves, so they can take care of everything else. As a Mom, I think we all know what it is to put ourself on the back burner. As much as I am guilty of that, I am realizing how important my health (mental and physical) is not only for me, but for my family.
With that in mind, I have made yoga an everyday part of my life. Not a long, strenuous workout, but a short 10-15minutes in the morning or evening. YouTube has been a great place to find quick workouts. It is not the only thing you can do or the only factor in prevention, but it is my small step to taking better care of myself.
hile in New York, we stayed at a wonderful hotel ( The Row NYC) that has great views of time square.
We walked (and walked more) in Time Square. I don’t think I you can get much more tourist like than a horse and carriage in Central Park or ice skating at Rockefeller Center.
It was such a great time and I was able to relax and take a little break from the my 3 loves. There is definitely something to be said for small vacations and reducing stress.
Back in KC, I volunteered for the annual Heart & Stroke Ball. Silent auction, dinner, inspiring stories of survival and dancing!
I couldn’t be more proud to be a Go Red for Women Ambassador and to be living in a city that does such for the cause. To learn your risk factors or see how you can get involved, visit The American Heart Association .
Take a second to learn more, because #LifeisWhy and #YouAreWhy
The outpouring of encouragement from family, friends, Instagram followers and complete strangers has been amazing! It seems once most people find out about my divorce, they offer advice. To my surprise, almost all of the advice and words of comfort end with a story of how they found love, again.
After such pain that a divorce brings, it gives me hope to hear such wonderful stories of new love.
Finding love, again, will be a feat. There isn’t a lot of time for dating. The single Mom thing is no joke. Seriously. For real. In a 24 hour period, there is the following: breakfast, school for 2, home with 1, lunch, occasional TV appearance, work (before 2:30pm). School pick up, basketball practice pick up (maybe a team dinner or game), volleyball practice, dinner, a work out if I can manage to fit it in, homework, baths, bedtime routine (we all know takes a while). Which brings us to the weekends that include tournaments, volleyball games, working a second job, birthday parties and I’m sure there’s more I’m leaving out. Yes, there are visits from Dad, but not more than a few hours at a time and never overnight, so it is basically all me and some help from my wonderful parents. That list is not a complaint, because I wouldn’t trade the fleeting time with my kids for anything in the world (a night or two off would be fantastic)!
Anyway, my point is that a new love would have to understand that I am crazy busy. Busier than a “regular person because I run my own business. Crazier than most because I think I can have it all. Along with understanding that my children come first. Always have (which I am sure contributed to the end of my marriage) and they always will. I know, some will tell me that there are flaws in my plan, but I don’t care. My kids first, I’m not changing that.
He will also have to be okay with me blogging about him (us). I mean, I write about teeth whitening and Legoland, so believe me, I’m going to want to blog all about a new love!
I recently read an article that included 18 things to look for in a boyfriend for an alpha female. It pretty much summed up the guy I’m looking for, other than the fact that I’m almost 40 and I think I’m too old for a “boyfriend” (which is a blog for a future date). It got my wheels spinning and thinking that maybe such a man exists.
Love, again. Just may be a real thing.
(I really hope so).